Top and Bottom are common BDSM roles, but they are often misunderstood. This guide explains what they mean and how they differ from Dom and Sub dynamics.
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For related reading see our
BDSM Basics Guide and
Dom vs Sub Guide.
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A Top is the person who performs actions in a BDSM scene, while a Bottom is the person who receives those actions.
These roles are about action, not control. A Top may be active in the scene, but that does not automatically mean they are Dominant.
For a full understanding of roles, see our Dom vs Sub Guide.
Learn more in our BDSM Negotiation Guide.
No. Control depends on the agreed dynamic, not just the role.
Yes. A Bottom can still hold psychological or emotional control.
Yes. Exploring both helps you understand your preferences.
